How to deal with emotions & emotional stress

We as human beings are emotional beings and emotions run our lives. However, we have not received sufficient education from school about how to deal with emotions and more often than not our parents are not good at dealing well with emotions either.

Therefore, let’s take a minute to think about how we currently deal with emotions and if there is a better way to deal with emotions going forward. I will also share with your what I do when I feel emotional stress in my life.

First of all, what is emotion? Emotion is a feeling that we feel in our body. Emotions are triggered by thoughts. Thoughts are thought in the mind and feelings are felt in the body. When we think happy thoughts, we feel happy feelings and when we think sad thoughts we feel sad feelings. Now it’s crucial to understand that emotions live in the body.

The worst way to deal with emotions is to bottle them up or ignore them. This is the least effective approach because when we don’t deal with emotions they don’t disappear rather they come back later on in a form of a disease.

Therefore, we need to do two main things when dealing with emotions, firstly we need to face the emotions and understand what exactly was the trigger. Was it what he/she said? Was it what he/she did? Was it what he/she didn’t do? Personally, it helps me loads when I write everything down on a paper, without holding back just write out exactly what I feel and how this behavior made me feel and why I am angry or sad.

The reason I write them down is that when I, later on, read it back to myself it doesn’t make sense or it does make sense and then I give it a meaning. For example, he did this because he was hurt first by my behavior or he wasn’t in a good state or whatever might be.

The second step remember is to let it go from my body, so what I do is I go to the gym and sweat it out. I might run for 50 straight minutes on the treadmill thinking to myself – ‘I don’t deserve this, my happiness is more important than any issue or negativity and I let this go right now, it doesn’t serve me anymore’.

By the end of the training I’m sweaty all over and I go to the shower thinking all the negativity is out of my body and I’m feeling relieved and free. It’s a wonderful feeling because the negative emotion doesn’t have power over me anymore, I’m free!

Now this works for me, as I’m very physical. Other people might prefer to write songs, or poems or paint. Just think for yourself what would allow this negativity to exit your body and to let go so that it doesn’t have power over you anymore.

Also, I’d like to go as far as to say that it’s worth taking some time to think about this because the way we deal with emotions is the reflection of our soul – it is very raw and unguided that we just deal with them unconsciously most of the time.

Lastly, think what would work better for you and just do that, hope this video gave you some good tips and ideas to deal with your emotions effectively. Let me know how you deal with emotions below and please like, share and subscribe to my channel.

Lots of love,

Ferenike

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