According to Tony Robbins, there are 6 basic human needs that we all have and we all meet one way or another. For those of you that you are not familiar with Tony Robbins, he is an American author, speaker, and entrepreneur. He is an authority in the personal development industry and in fact he is the one that invented coaching about 30 years ago.
Now as we talk about the 6 basic human needs I want you to think about how you prioritize them and how do you meet them. And effectively think about healthier ways to meet those same needs.
The 1st need is our need for certainty. We need to know that our world isn’t going to collapse overnight. We need to feel safe that we have a roof over our head and water, electricity or whatever provides certainty for us. When we don’t have the feeling of certainty we usually tend to eat, drink alcohol, smoke or whatever one feels familiar with to go back to the feeling of certainty and familiarity.
But what happens when we are certain about everything in life? The answer is that we get bored out of our mind and therefore we have a second need – the need for unceratinty/variaty. We need to have some fun, we like to explore new ideas, places, and new activities that add variety to our lives.
The 3rd basic human need is our need to feel significant/unique. Some people meet that need by acquiring many educational degrees and titles. Some other people meet that same need by putting tattoos all over their bodies to feel special or other people with money buy expensive houses, cars etc to feel significant. We all have the same need to we meet them in different ways.
For example, when someone has no education, family, resources – the easiest way to feel significant is to put a gun on someone’s head. This is the reason why violence has been around in the world for so long because it meets 3 of our needs simultaneously. It meets the need for significance, the need for certainty – because how certain someone is that the victim will respond to them? 100% certain. And also meets the need for uncertainty because it’s a unique situation and there is an exciting factor about what’s going to happen next… It is unfortunate but I want you to understand that a violent person is also trying to meet his needs – like we all do. The difference is that we go about it in different ways.
Back to the needs now – what happens when we feel significant all the time? We feel disconnected from other people and therefore we have the 4th need which is the need for love/connection. Love is quite scary for some people, therefore, they settle for connection instead. But we all want to feel understood and loved one way or the other.
The first 4 basic human needs are called the needs of the personality and we all have them. Now the last 2 needs are the needs of the spirit and not everyone has an urge for them.
The 5th is the need for growth. This is a big one for me and has always been a priority the need to better ourselves all the time no matter what we do. Because if we don’t grow, we simply die. It’s the same for businesses and countries and all kinds of communities.
And finally, the reason we grow is no other than to be able to give back more. That’s why the 6th basic human need is the need for contribution. We want to feel that we give back to our community, to other human beings and we help them grow too. Of course, this is the most rewarding of all 6 basic human needs!
Just to summarize the 6 basic human needs are:
We all prioritize the human needs differently and the direction of your life changes accordingly too. For example, if the need for being significant runs your life, I know for a fact that you’ll never be able to feel fulfilled and happy. How do I know this? Because I’ve been there before and I had to change the priority of my needs too.
Please think about this and also whether there are healthier ways to meet those same 6 basic human needs in order to increase the quality of your life and of those around you. Let me know as well if you need some further guidance with execution and I’m happy to help.
Lots of love